It’s finally here. A bad bish turns THIRTY today and it’s a whole mood!
I’ve been writing this post for about a month. Self-love has been on my mind and sharing a little of my journey with you guys on my birthday felt like the thing to do.
For as long as I can remember, my weight has been something that I have always been aware of and over the years, the way I have personally felt about myself has changed. Part of that came from figuring out that overweight people aren’t the only ones with body image issues. People have insecurities about so many things and although it seemed different, I now can relate. In the society I grew up in, commenting on someone’s physical appearance as a joke or nickname was normal… so I thought. I had been silenced by the thought that I couldn’t speak up about something if I didn’t like it because it’s what most thought was normal. Wrong! If I don’t like it, I’m going to speak up and everyone should feel that way. I see so many people saying children should respect adults and do as they are told, but adults legit bully kids. It’s not just kids bullying kids, grown people, who kids are supposed to respect say mean things to kids because they are the adults. Everyone has a right to let someone know they are not ok with comments made about them. Regardless of age. Self love is not something that is easy for most, no matter what you look like loving yourself can be difficult, especially if society is part of the reason you feel bad about yourself.
Meeting new friends who were supportive and following fly plus size girls on the internet changed me. I learned there is more than one way to think and I chose to push my mind to the positive instead of the negative. It may seem like this crop-top wearing confidence came from the sky, but I really had to step out of my normal thoughts to elevate my thoughts.
Outside of discovering self love, letting go was one of the greatest things I have ever found for myself. When I felt the relief of not holding on to words, people or memories, I literally felt a shift in my soul. I can’t control anything outside of myself, so I have to remember not to stress the things I have no control over.
We have to learn to love ourselves the way we love others. Be kind to one another because you never know what someone is going through.